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13 Aug

The DSM-5 Says Kink is OK!

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The American Psychiatric Association has depathologized kinky sex – including cross-dressing, fetishes, and BDSM – in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5).
 
Now the paraphilias are considered to be “unusual sexual interests,” while those who have sex with children or people who haven’t consented, or who deliberately cause harm to themselves or others, may be diagnosed with a Paraphilic Disorder.

“The APA has made it clear that being kinky is not a mental disorder,” says Susan Wright, Spokesperson for NCSF. “That means people no longer have to fear being diagnosed as mentally ill just because they belong to a BDSM group.

The following are some statements about the various paraphilias in the DSM-5. Although highly clinical in language, they show the APA’s intent to not demand treatment for healthy consenting adult sexual expression:

  • “A paraphilia is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder, and a paraphilia by itself does not necessarily justify or require clinical intervention.” p. 686
  • “In contrast, if they declare no distress, exemplified by anxiety, obsessions, guilt or shame, about these paraphilic impulses, and are not hampered by them in pursuing other personal goals, they could be ascertained as having masochistic sexual interest but should not be diagnosed with a sexual masochism disorder.” p. 694
  •  “Many individuals who self-identify as fetishist practitioners do not necessarily report clinical impairment in association with their fetish-associated behaviors. Such individuals could be considered as having a fetish but not fetishistic disorder.” p. 701
  • “Clinical assessment of distress or impairment, like clinical assessment of transvestic sexual arousal, is usually dependent on the individual’s self-report.” p. 703

I Fantasize About My Husband Being Gang Raped By Men

3 Aug

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Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

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My husband is a really sweet man. He’s very kind to me. He doesn’t have a mean bone in his body. He never hits me or is mean or even yells at me.

Pretty much since I’ve known him I fantasize about him being gang raped by men. In my fantasy I’m watching when this happens. I’m egging the men on. I let some of the men fuck me while others rape my husband.

Sometimes I masturbate when I have this fantasy and I orgasm as a result. I have lots of dark twisted fantasies. This is just one of them. I know my husband would be shocked if I told him. He has no idea of my twisted side. [tc-mark]

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My curious paradox about sexual addiction

3 Aug

Originally posted on Pink Therapy Blog:

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I’m finding myself in a curious paradox regarding ‘sexual addiction’ and it’s one that I feel the time has come to speak out about.  I’m increasingly frustrated at seeing people claim expertise in something which most mental health professionals dispute exists.

How does one claim to be a sex addiction expert when even the expert psychiatrists of the American Psychiatric Association recently revised DSM V were not persuaded to include Hypersexual Desire Disorder, let alone recognise sexual addiction as a diagnosis eligible for treatment?

I’ve been working as a therapist with gay and bisexual men for over 30 years and I would say I have never met anyone I considered to be a “sex addict.”  I’ve met many men who have found themselves out of control with sex, or who have used sex compulsively, or even recklessly, but I wouldn’t call them “addicted.”  I’m also not happy…

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The Bitch(iness) Is Back

3 Aug

College student takes on ‘gay BFF’ stereotype in amazing speech

3 Aug

Originally posted on JerBear's Queer World News, Views & More From The City Different - Santa Fe, NM:

Gay men are not a commodity – TED Talks:

Here’s the blurb from Gay Star News:

20-year-old spoke at the world renowned TED conference with his award-winning speech on how gay people are not a commodity

BY JOE MORGAN

A college student is taking on the ‘gay best friend’ stereotype in an amazing and award-winning speech.

Mark Pampanin, sick of being the Will to every girl’s Grace, decided to write about feeling like a collectable item, a fashionable entity.

The 20-year-old from Chapman University in California recently shocked the competition at the 100th biennial Pi Kappa Delta tournament by snagging first place in the after-dinner speaking category.

‘We’re often portrayed as one-dimensional characters,’ Pampanin says.

‘I don’t care how Kathy Griffin is treating Anderson Cooper. I’m going to tell you that I am a person. I paid 12 dollars for this haircut, I hate the mall, and I still…

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Gay Guys Can’t Have Gay Friends

3 Aug

Originally posted on Gaymer, Baker, Disaster:

So I’ve had a series of event occur lately that just drives the point home of how much I hate other gay guys sometimes.  No less than three times this past week was I brushed aside due to the simple fact that I wasn’t willing to bang any of these guys.  I’m appalled and a bit disgusted.  

Now these are guys I have known before and a long way in the past I have been intimate with them.  Nothing serious, just random fun that happened many years ago.  I approached one on my own.  He had moved away for a long time and recently came back.  I sent him a text message, he replied, we started having a conversation.  I kept it innocent and said that now since he is back we need to hang out.  We have a membership at the same gym so I proposed we go…

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Our Agenda – A New Type of Campaign

3 Aug

Originally posted on men4mentalk:

Bob Leahy talks to ACT’s John Maxwell  from Ontario’s GMSH (Gay Men’s Sexual Health Alliance) about an innovative new campaign which explores the connections between gay men’s emotional, mental and sexual health.

Our Agenda  - a new type of campaign

The Gay Men’s Sexual Health Alliance (GMSH) is a network of front-line workers, HIV researchers, public health, policy makers and community members responding to gay men’s sexual health in Ontario. The GMSH works to establish long-term, goal-oriented, evidence-based strategies, tools, policies and programs that will effectively assist all of us, committed to ensuring that gay and bisexual men in our communities enjoy healthy, full sexual and emotional lives.

John Maxwell is Director of Programs and Services at AIDS Committee of Toronto (ACT).  He and ACT have been long-standing members of the GMSH Network and John is a spokesperson for the Our Agenda campaign.

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Bob Leahy: Hi John. Thank you for talking to PositiveLite.com. I’ve just been having…

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50 Shades of Gay: a Community in Parentheses

3 Aug

Originally posted on ORGANISED CHAOS:

(In an effort to make this post more appealing, working titles included ‘A Good Old Ho-moan’ and the ever-brilliant ‘Memoirs of a Gay-sha’, though in the end I felt best to call a spade a spade; a serious-ish title for a serious subject.)

I had a less than Oscar-worthy coming out experience. Sure, I was the subject of many a rumour during my teens, but I attribute that to the fact that I was never incredibly forthcoming about my sexuality. Part of me enjoyed playing up the mystery, but a bigger part was simply unable to relate to the gay community. It’s something I struggle with to this day.

Never did I imagine mining my personal life for inspiration, but it turns out that University has sparked a hyper-awareness of my identity as a gay man in ways I never expected.

Vain, youth-obsessed, promiscuous, irresponsible; it’s no secret that the…

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“Stinging” Gay Men “Undercover” is About As Naughty as It Sounds

3 Aug

Originally posted on Misanthropology 101:

Baton Rouge FlagY’all saw this one over the weekend? Apparently the sheriff’s office in the East Baton Rouge Parish has been lockin’ the gays up, for bein’ gay and doing gay things.

That is, of course, a thing that the Supreme Court said you can’t do anymore (the locking people up part, not the being gay part), but Louisiana never bothered to take the unconstitutional laws off their books. So the sheriff’s office decided they’d enforce it anyway, and let the courts decide that the men in question hadn’t committed any crimes later. It’s like catch and release fishing!

And now that we’ve all taken a moment to feel righteously indignant and blah blah blah awful people discrimination etc., can we rewind a bit to the part where this involves undercover sheriff’s deputies cruising the parks at night for gay hookups? Because that’s the part of this story that I’m loving.

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Playboy Wants To Know Why Your School Is Best Party School [PHOTOS]

13 Jul

Originally posted on Sports Gossip, Sexy WAGs, NFL and Hot Cheerleaders: BustedCoverage:

Playboy Party Schools Colorado
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we know, bro: your school crushed it at parties. Do you even funnel, bro? Unless your school merits a mention as one of Playboy’s Top Party Schools, it’s hard to take you seriously.

Playboy compiles an annual list of the top party schools in the country; the University of Virginia won last year. Every year, people either complain that their school isn’t ranked high enough (or isn’t ranked at all).

In 2013, Playboy is asking for your help. It wants current students and alumni to send stories and pictures supporting their school’s candidacy. You can rep your school in three ways:

• Share, like and comment on Facebook.

• Send pictures, video and stories to @Playboy on Twitter.

• Upload pictures to Instagram.

Use #PlayboyPartySchool as the tag on all the platforms. You can hashtag, right bro? The best photos and stories will make…

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